“But God comandeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:8
Christ wanted you so much that He died, WILLINGLY, to save your life….BEFORE you had life. He pursues you and lets you know how much He loves you. He m
ade you promises that He has EVERY intention on keeping. “So shall my word be that goeth forth out of my mouth: it shall not return unto me void, but it shall accomplish that which I please, and it shall prosper in the thing whereto I sent it.” (Isaiah 55:11)
Jesus won’t ever leave your side and He won’t turn His back on you. “…for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.” (Hebrews 13:5) He ALWAYS listens to you…your problems, complaints, joys……ALL OF IT! “I waited patiently for the Lord; and he inclined unto me, and heard my cry.” (Psalms 40:1) He chose you! “But ye are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, an holy nation, a peculiar people; that ye should shew forth the praises of him who hath called you out of darkness into his marvellous light:” (1 Peter 2:9)
So then, my dear, in KNOWING all of this, why would you EVER consider settling for any man that refuses to pursue you? One who won’t listen to you or cherish you? One that continuously lies to you and never keeps a promise? Why consider being with a man that can’t commit to you? One that keeps you as an option and won’t “choose” you??? One that, no matter what you do, won’t commit to Ephesians 5:33 and love you the way he loves himself? “Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respect her husband.” (Ephesians 5:33, NKJV)
The thing is……the Bible says in Proverbs 18:22, “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord” The problem is that, often, we come out of hiding for men that have not rightfully “found” us. You see, in order to find favor with God, you have got to be in His will.
In creating Eve, God took a rib from Adam….they fit perfectly because she was a part of him. “And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman and brought her unto the man.” (Genesis 2:22) This shows that the man that God has for you will be perfect FOR YOU…you will fit together. Now….I didn’t say he’d be perfect, but perfect FOR YOU. Notice that you don’t seem compatible with the man “you” chose because you are not his rib! He is NOT your Adam!
How can you vow to submit to a man that will not submit to the Lord? “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.” (Ephesians 5:22) Now, this doesn’t mean that he isn’t saved or “doesn’t know the Lord”, but honey, if that man isn’t willing to pursue you as God has ordained, he’s outside the will of God. “Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.” (James 4:7)
So, please, my dear, wait on the Lord! I know you’re all of a sudden hearing the sound of that “ticking clock” that everyone says exists. I can see that you’ve got “baby fever”. I know that you feel “ready” because your “crew” has hyped you up and told you that it’s about time for you to get married. I know you’re anxious to prove that you are the perfect reflection of a Proverbs 31 woman but just hold on, God WILL make it worth the wait.
Until it’s your time, get your 1 Thessalonians 5:17 on, “Pray without ceasing.” Let your John 4:24 shine through, “God is a Spirit: and they that worship him must worship him in spirit and in truth.” Let James 1:4 learn you a thing or two, “But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing.” And be sure that your 1 Chronicles 16:11 qualities aren’t lacking, “Seek the Lord and his strength and his face continually.” Give your heart a chance to be mended by the creator, “Trust in him at all times; ye people, pour out your heart before him: God is a refuge for us. Selah.” (Psalms 62:8)
Sometimes, you must give yourself “waiting room” so that you can realize all of this and see things how they really are. “I wait for the Lord, my soul doth wait, and in his word do I hope.” (Psalms 130:5) “Wait on the Lord: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the Lord” (Psalms 27:14)
Remember, God CHOSE YOU and He wants His best…..He has His best FOR YOU! It will ALL be worth the wait……Just. Like. YOU!
Love you ladies! (I really do!)
Ms. A.M.White